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* Relationships between parents and adult children are “ambivalent relationships,” meaning they contain both positive and negative perceptions.

* Today, increasing life expectancies mean that family members will spend more time in intergenerational roles requiring negotiation and understanding in dealing with change.

* Sensitive issues, such as money, death, and family relations are difficult issues not only to bring up, but also to talk about in any depth. It is hard to approach these issues calmly when there are strong feelings about what is important.

* Farm and ranch families face the same trials and difficulties encountered by other families, the difference is that their livelihood, the farm or ranch, is tied into it.

* This increases the importance of intentional efforts to address these challenges and maintain good parent/child relationships.

* A family may find that it is too late if they wait until it is time to transition the farm or ranch to the next generation. This can add even another source of stress and difficulty to an already challenging process.

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* Establishing and maintaining healthy relationships between parents and adult children is challenging at any stage in life. This is especially true during times of change.

* There are many factors that contribute to conflict and stress between family members. Three common sources of stress include differences in values, developmental stages, and expectations.

* Building and maintaining healthy relationships between adult children and their parents requires: honesty, communication, validation of feelings and beliefs, respect for one another, letting go, not taking all the credit/blame, and choosing for yourself.

* Sensitive issues, such as money, death, and family relations are difficult issues not only to bring up, but also to talk about in any depth. It is hard to approach these issues calmly when there are strong feelings about what is important.

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One reason we resist forgiving is that we don’t really understand what forgiveness is or how it works. We think we do, but we don’t.
* Forgiveness is not letting the offender off the hook.
* Forgiveness does not mean we must continue to be the victim.
* Forgiveness is not the same as reconciling. We can
forgive someone even if we cannot bring ourselves to get along with them again.
* Forgiveness is a process, not an event.
* Forgetting does not mean denying reality or ignoring
repeated offenses.
* Forgiveness is not based on others’ actions but on our attitude and state of mind.
* Withholding forgiveness is a refusal to let go of perceived power.
* Be careful not to forgive too quickly in order to avoid pain or, worse, to manipulate the situation.
* Watch that you are not simply covering up the wounds and holding back the necessary healing process.
* Forgiveness does not mean forgetting.
* Forgiveness starts with a mental decision. The emotional part of forgiveness is finally being able to let go of the resentment.

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