We can also work to stay in control and help break the cycle. Begin by calling out the manipulation. Calling out the action brings it front and center and lets the other person know that you are not okay with the identified behavior, whether the person is aware of their manipulation or not. Next, help them understand how it makes you feel. You can do this by using “I” statements. These allow you to express your feelings in a non-confrontational manner. For example, you could say “When you _______________, I feel ________________.

How to stop being a manipulator – This is similar to calling out another’s manipulation. Begin by calling out yourself. Identify what pain might be causing you to act in this way. What are you trying to hide? Next, ask yourself how you can take care of yourself in the face of this pain? Strive to interact from a healthier place.