* Establishing and maintaining healthy relationships between parents and adult children is challenging at any stage in life. This is especially true during times of change.

* There are many factors that contribute to conflict and stress between family members. Three common sources of stress include differences in values, developmental stages, and expectations.

* Building and maintaining healthy relationships between adult children and their parents requires: honesty, communication, validation of feelings and beliefs, respect for one another, letting go, not taking all the credit/blame, and choosing for yourself.

* Sensitive issues, such as money, death, and family relations are difficult issues not only to bring up, but also to talk about in any depth. It is hard to approach these issues calmly when there are strong feelings about what is important.

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One reason we resist forgiving is that we don’t really understand what forgiveness is or how it works. We think we do, but we don’t.
* Forgiveness is not letting the offender off the hook.
* Forgiveness does not mean we must continue to be the victim.
* Forgiveness is not the same as reconciling. We can
forgive someone even if we cannot bring ourselves to get along with them again.
* Forgiveness is a process, not an event.
* Forgetting does not mean denying reality or ignoring
repeated offenses.
* Forgiveness is not based on others’ actions but on our attitude and state of mind.
* Withholding forgiveness is a refusal to let go of perceived power.
* Be careful not to forgive too quickly in order to avoid pain or, worse, to manipulate the situation.
* Watch that you are not simply covering up the wounds and holding back the necessary healing process.
* Forgiveness does not mean forgetting.
* Forgiveness starts with a mental decision. The emotional part of forgiveness is finally being able to let go of the resentment.

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* Do you experience conflict in your family? In your family business interactions? Do you know of a family that does not?
* Conflict is a clash of interests, values, actions, views or directions. Conflicts can be defused and even resolved. Do you know how to begin?
* Forgiveness is the conscious and deliberate decision to release resentment or anger. Where a break in the lines of communication has already occurred, forgiveness may be the only path forward.
* Luckily, granting forgiveness is something we can learn to do and we get better at it with practice. Have you considered forgiving someone to allow your legacy to live on after you are gone?

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Coping mechanisms can help address or mitigate the effects of stress and reduce anxiety:
• Be aware of your strengths, skills and weaknesses;
• Practice time management and goal setting techniques;
• Involve yourself in hobbies and recreation outside the business;
• Use support systems; and
• Practice stress-management techniques.

One of the best coping strategies for managing intergenerational stressors is open communication, especially for farm or ranch families.

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Ag Legacy modules can help. To learn more about AG LEGACY Modules and for ideas on where to begin see: AGLEGACY.org > Modules.

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* Farm and ranch families experience stress from a wide variety of factors, including: 1. Operational stressors, 2. Environmental influences, and 3. Family stressors. Most factors are out of the families’ control, potentially adding even more stress.
* Situations where money is tight represent another case that can lead to stress for both farm families and the agricultural business.
* One of the most stressful intergenerational farming issues reported is the transfer of the family farm or ranch to the next generation.

Stress factors can and often do affect everyone involved in the family farm or ranch business, even if they are not directly involved in day-to-day operations. See more at AgLegacy.org.

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STRESS is our bodies’ natural reaction to a demand or “stressor.” Much short-term stress can be positive: it motivates us to succeed with a challenge. But long term stress can be harmful to your health. A rural lifestyle may bring with it stressors of isolation, financial worries, and factors that are out of the control of the farmer/rancher such as weather, market prices, etc. Combined, these stressors place people at a greater risk for chronic stress, making it hard for them to move forward to positive solutions.
   If an individual or family member is unwilling to take the initiative, or if there might be some danger if quick action is not taken, you may want to take the lead. Ask for permission to contact an agency or community resource; then get in touch, share your concern and discuss how the office will respond to this referral.

See UW Extension | FARM STRESS for more at:
https://www.uwyo.edu/uwe/programs/farm-stress.html

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Non-titled property has no document specifying who officially owns the property. And, while it may or may not represent substantial monetary value, it often carries notable emotional value for family members of the owner. How do you plan to distribute your possessions of emotional value to the next generation?

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